One of the most painful effects of trauma is that it doesn’t always stay in the past. Long after an experience has ended, many people continue to carry it—not just in their memories, but in their bodies. They describe feeling constantly on edge. Unable to relax. Startled easily. Emotionally disconnected. Restless when they’re still. Exhausted, yet unable to truly rest. Often they say something like: “I don’t feel like my body is ever fully calm.” If you’ve ever felt this way,

One of the most common things I hear in therapy is: “I don’t even know what I need.” At first, many people are surprised by this. They know what other people need. They can anticipate the emotions of a partner, child, coworker, or friend before those individuals say a word. They are dependable, thoughtful, and deeply attuned to others. But when I ask, “What do you need right now?” they’re met with silence. Not because they don’t care about themselves. Because somewhere along

Have you ever made a decision, felt reasonably confident about it, and then spent the next several hours—or days—questioning whether you made the right choice? Maybe you replayed the conversation. Reviewed your options again. Asked multiple people for their opinions. Looked for reassurance online. Or imagined every possible outcome before finally arriving right back where you started. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many people assume difficulty making decisions is